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May. 3rd, 2006 @ 06:12 am Broken, utterly
Current Mood: crushedcrushed
Current Music: none
I don't ever recall feeling so heartbroken and hurt and sorrowful in my life.

This last evening, I had to fire Torgny, my friend from Sweden who's been living with my family.

He and I have been working on a project for my (our) boss. I asked specifically for Torgny, while he was still living in Sweden, because his skills are near legendary. So my boss extended him an offer that included a small advance to help him move his family back to the States. Because of this offer, Torgny's immigration paperwork, which had been held up for years, was finally approved.

So, Torgny's family went to stay with his wife's mother in NC. Torgny came to stay with me in FL, since that's where I had set up the mini-office. We, my family, had offered to cover all of Torgny's living expenses.

Torgny and I hit it off fairly well when he arrived. And we worked well together.

But something was a little off. The first few weeks went great. But, then, I was finding it very difficult to keep Torgny motivated. And I began to find that, unless he was drunk, it was very difficult to hold a civil conversation with him, since he preferred to speak over me and often resorted to yelling to get his points across.

I responded by working from my bedroom instead of the office. I made no statement as to why I moved. I simply said that it was more convenient, a muted truth.

Patrick and I had already been discussing this move for a year or so, although Patrick had always stressed that he wished to move to NC. Since my brother, Tom, also lives in NC, and Torgny's wife's family is from NC, I agreed to move my family so that we could all be within a reasonable distance of the office.

About a month back, Patrick began to look around SC. This raised some red flags because Torgny's wife overtly refused to live in SC. It was never a significant problem for me, although my *strong* preference was still to live in NC, if given the option.

About two weeks back, Patrick decided to buy some land in SC and found a contractor to build him a house.

I was shocked and a little upset because Patrick mentioned his decision only after he had already put money down. But, given time to consider it, I realized that this was done not out of any malice, but for purely practical reasons. The suburb Patrick selected is 20% less expensive than an equivalent lot in NC near Charlotte (one area we were considering). The lot is also likely to increase in value more quickly, and the school district there is one of the best in the Carolinas, and far surpasses those here in FL.

Torgny responded by going on a silent strike. He refused to work, but he didn't disclose to Patrick that anything was amiss. They discussed the situation in SC on the phone more than once and he presented himself as disappointed, but supportive.

During this strike, I became very stressed out because I could see that the work was not getting done. I kept the strike a secret from Patrick because I didn't want to ruin Torgny's career with the company. But I continued to quietly urge him to work. My folks began keeping tabs on him as well and reminding him periodically of his deadline.

After mincing words with my mother, the strike broke. He hadn't worked in five days at this point. Our deadline was a two-week period, and we were nearing the milestone. We had left only two work days, plus Saturday and Sunday.

A day later I was still looking for progress. I conveyed to Torgny, at this point, that he was in trouble; not meeting his deadline was simply not an option. And his job was at stake.

So, Torgny busted ass and got his pieces done. Or so I was lead to believe.

Torgny and my father drove up to see Patrick and receive our checks for the milestone met. I didn't go because I was (and still am) ill. When they returned, I had a nice check for my completed work. Torgny had what he called a "partial payment" for his work. I asked about this and discovered that Torgny had not completed the work that he committed to do, as I was lead to believe. And he was expecting a second check when he was finished early that coming week.

I held my tongue.

After another day watching Torgny play video games and dork with network hardware, I was becoming upset. Yet, I still held my tongue.

We ordered Chinese food for dinner. After dinner we opened our fortune cookies. And if every one of them wasn't about work or doing the right thing. We laughed and chided Torgny about the cookies. He became irate and began to yell. "Doing right by me means not working", he said. He continued that he refused to work because people keep reminding him that he needs to be working. I said, "You know what? Get out. Leave."

Torgny returned later. And the evening only managed to spiral even more out of control.

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Mar. 6th, 2006 @ 03:03 am "What tarot card resembles you?" Quiz
Current Mood: sleepysleepy
Current Music: none
The High Priestess
You scored 38 change, 58 wellbeing, 71 wisdom, and 67 truth

This card represents the subconscious mind. It is the balancing force between pairs. The pillars to her sides represent the opposites, light and dark, and she sits in the middle of them, impartial to one or the other. The curtain behind her connects the pairs. The letters on the pillars are B and J. The B is symbolic of the number 2 falling as the second letter in the alphabet. The letter J is the 10th letter in the alphabet, in numerology, this is reduced to 1. So on the pillars we have the numbers 1 and 2. This is symbolic of male and female, the two opposites. The Priestess is holding a scroll of universal and personal knowledge, but only part of it is showing, because god has more yet to reveal. The High Priestess is the link, the conscious mind formulates ideas and the subconscious sets them into action in a fashion of order, represented by the block on which she sits. This card falls under the vibration of the number 2.

some extra words:

staying nonactive
withdrawing from involvement
allowing events to proceed without intervention
being receptive to influence
becoming calm
being passive
waiting patiently

accessing the unconscious
using your intuition
seeking guidance from within
trusting your inner voice
opening to dreams and the imagination
being aware of a larger reality

seeing the potential
understanding the possibilities
opening to what could be
seeing your hidden talents
allowing development
letting what is there flower

sensing the mystery
looking beyond the obvious
approaching a closed off area
opening to the unknown
remembering something important
sensing the secret and hidden
seeking what is concealed
acknowledging the Shadow

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You scored higher than 6% on change

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You scored higher than 33% on wellbeing

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You scored higher than 65% on wisdom

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You scored higher than 73% on truth
Link: The What tarot card resembles you Test written by KamikazeParrot on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test
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Mar. 4th, 2006 @ 12:00 am The Renaissance Festival
Current Mood: happyhappy
Current Music: none
I went to the Renaissance Festival with Torgies today. I bought him a season's pass so he could get in for the remaining weekends.
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Mar. 3rd, 2006 @ 12:00 am Ultraviolet
Current Mood: disappointeddisappointed
Current Music: none
I went to see Ultraviolet with Jason, Pete, Amanda, and Torgies.

I had high hopes for this movie. As usual. But I was let down. As usual. This flick was fairly incoherent and filled in the long empty sequences in the film with poor CG. Ach, well.
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Feb. 25th, 2006 @ 10:41 am Picking up Torgny
Current Mood: excitedexcited
Current Music: none
I'll be driving down to Miami today around 3pm with my folks to retreive Torgny from the airport. His plane arrives at 4pm, but Miami is a good, long ways away. I'm expecting it will take a few hours for him to get through customs, and another hour to drive back.

Torgny's going to be staying at my place for a few months to work on a project with me for my (our) boss. This represents a substantial amount of income for both of us. Plus we get to party (sort of). :I
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Feb. 24th, 2006 @ 10:00 am "U.S. Ports Raise Proxy Problem"
Current Mood: complacentcomplacent
Current Music: none
U.S. Ports Raise Proxy Problem by Bruce SchneierCollapse )

[The original article is here.]
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Feb. 21st, 2006 @ 12:26 pm Fla. Man Kills Roommate Over Toilet Paper
Current Mood: contentcontent
Current Music: none
MOSS BLUFF, Fla. - A man accused of fatally beating his roommate with a sledgehammer and a claw hammer because there was no toilet paper in their home has been arrested.

Franklin Paul Crow, 56, was charged Monday with homicide in the death of Kenneth Matthews, 58, according to the Marion County Sheriff's Office.

Capt. Thomas Bibb said Crow initially denied his involvement, but confessed during questioning.

Crow told investigators that the men were fighting about the toilet paper over the weekend when Matthews pulled out a rifle. Crow said he then began beating Matthews with the sledgehammer and claw hammer, according to an affidavit.

Matthews was beaten so badly he had to be identified through his fingerprints, detectives said.

Crow was being held at the Marion County jail without bond. It was not immediately known whether he had an attorney.

[The original article is here.]
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Feb. 17th, 2006 @ 03:50 am Wasting away, yeah
Current Mood: cheerfulcheerful
Current Music: RU36 / Neo Latha Hatha Datha
Since October of 2005, I've lost about 45 pounds. That's 20.5Kg for those who only speak metrics. I'm at 195 pounds now, or 89.5Kg, the least I've weighed in eight years. Woowoo.
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Feb. 16th, 2006 @ 11:08 am Received Torgny's itinerary
Current Mood: ecstaticecstatic
Current Music: none
Torgny will be arriving February 25th at 4pm in Miami, Florida. Woo. I'm excited.
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Feb. 15th, 2006 @ 06:48 pm Single Persons Awareness Day
Current Mood: listlesslistless
Current Music: Metallica / Battery
Yep. Another one bites the dust.
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